March 10, 2015
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http://www.redpathfruthfuneralhome.com/
The above is the link to my husband's (Tom McDairmant) obituary. I'm finding out that there are a lot of things to take care of when a loved one dies. All my family have been here. I think there were 42 of us at the meal provided by the church. The memorial service was beautiful. I haven't cried a lot yet. I'm kind of a delayed crier. It takes awhile for my emotions to catch up with what's happening.
The day before he died was business as usual. Breakfast out with friends. Then the P.O. bank, and the shop. He also went out for lunch, then home for a nap. Back to the shop, home about 5, when he drove me to the pet store to pick up my mom's dog who was there for grooming. We both went to bed fairly early. He had been sleeping in his recliner for several weeks. I was asleep when he started having to pant to breathe. He said he should have gone to the hospital then, but he didn't want to. He woke me about 5 a.m. and still wouldn't go to the hospital. Our daughter in law came to get us sometime before 8 a.m. since I'm still not driving. She drove us to the Dr. who sent us to emergency. They admitted him, and he spent the day almost comfortably in a room. He had oxygen so he could breathe better. He had lots of tests, and we saw lots of specialists. He enjoyed joking with the nurses. He'd say things like "Here comes the vampire" when someone came to take his blood. He seemed to be stable and I was tired, so about 6 p.m. I went home. About 7 my daughter called and said someone was coming to get me. His blood pressure had dropped really low. His heart was only working at 20 %. They called a Code Blue, and rushed him to ICU. His INR was 3.8 so he should not have had any blood clots. However a large clot formed in his heart, and the heart walls were too thin to pump it out. A Dr. actually watched it form. He said he had never seen anything like it. He called it massive. They spent quite awhile trying to revive him, but it was no use. He died at 8:03 p.m. God decided it was time.
He knew the Lord, and was not afraid to die. I'm glad he went quickly and didn't have to suffer much. Thank you all for your prayers and sympathy. I am so grateful to have friends like you.
Comments (7)
Gracia I'm so sad that there is now a hole in your life. We never know the time or place when we will be taken to be with the Father. Cyber hugs all around!
Oh Gracia ~ so very sorry ~ blessings to you ~
Praying for you. This is a sad part of life.
God was holding his hand when he passed over.He's in heaven now. God bless your family and the comfort it brings you to know he's in heaven with his Lord
Thanks for sharing the details of your last day. I continue to pray for you - with love.
Praying for you. I've thought of you and your family often since this happened. It's a sad time. It's sad to watch parents go through separation too. Love and God bless you with help in the details.
I'm so sorry to hear you lost your husband. Even if you know it's coming, it's hard to lose the person with whom you've spent most of your life. I'll be praying you find strength to deal with it as you begin to grieve your great loss.